Posts tagged #tips

Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body Guidelines

Welcome to the Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body community!

Chronic anxiety and other physical and emotional conditions will NEVER HEAL and in fact they will continue to get worse, unless you deal with your underlying emotional traumas and stuck emotions.

My community is about helping sensitive souls who are ready to heal their emotional traumas so they can finally feel safe and at home in their body. If you're ready for peace of mind and freedom, you're in the right place!

NOBODY ELSE IS ADDRESSING THE UNDERLYING ISSUES THAT KEEP YOU FEELING STRESSED, ANXIOUS AND FRUSTRATED YEAR AFTER YEAR

Here are some of the amazing benefits you will receive in this sacred and uplifting group:

  • Feel relieved as you finally learn the root causes of your physical conditions such as anxiety.

  • Feel supported with deeply healing tools to unravel and clear toxic emotions so that you are no longer at war with your body.

  • Feel calm and centred the more you connect to your True Self and have the clarity you've been looking for.

Here is the link to share for the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

DAILY THEMES

Acceptance Monday: One of the things I stand for and that I follow to get powerful results for my clients, is the principle of RADICAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE. That means that we acknowledge, embrace and integrate ALL PARTS OF OURSELVES NO MATTER WHAT. Healing starts with a declaration of acceptance to yourself. What are you willing to accept about yourself this week?

Truly Me Tuesday: MY FAVOURITE DAY OF THE WEEK! ALL HEALING AND TRANSFORMATION DEPENDS ON OUR CONNECTION AND EXPRESSION OF WHO WE REALLY ARE

Share some of the things that allows you to express your True Self. Examples can be poems, crafts, art, even a pic of the amazing meal you created or the garden you tend. I can't wait to see what you do to express your True Self!

Willingness Wednesday: We may think we're ready to heal, we may insist that we are open, but sometimes we are not. Today we are going to change that! Tune in and find where you feel resistant and declare that you are willing to let it go, find help or have a different experience. Post it below to really get the energy moving!!

Aha Thursday: Post your ahas about your experience of anxiety this week. What have you noticed? What is working? What are you struggling with? Tell us your lightbulb moment. It can be light and funny or deep and profound--you pick!

Fave Friday: Share your favourite people, place or thing—pic or gif or description. 

Soothing Sunday: How do you help your soul relax, recharge and unwind?

 

POSTS THAT ARE ENCOURAGED

  • Participating in the daily themes, telling us about yourself, sharing stories that are uplifting or inspirational

  • Helpful resources that you would like to share with the group—that helped you personally

  • Any questions or comments about your own journey

  • Requests for support and encouragement if you're having a difficult or challenging time

  • Questions about the HEAL YOUR EMOTIONS, HEAL YOUR BODY community: for clarification or when in need of more details
     

POSTS THAT ARE NOT TOLERATED

  • Offering UNSOLICITED (meaning the person did not ask for advice or guidance) counselling, therapy or coaching to other members-it is fine to offer love, support and encouragement

  • Insults, shaming or ridicule of others' posts and sharing

  • No spamming of business offers or marketing/commercial posts; this is not a group to promote your business


INVITE YOUR FRIENDS

To invite your friends to this community, send them a personal message with the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

Do not add people to the group without their permission.
Always ask first.

How to Know When You're Being Manipulated by Fear (and what to do)

Have you ever been hounded by someone's fear-based opinions until you felt totally panicky and thrown off? It's scary and intense, right? In this video, I offer you some tips on how to recognize fear-based manipulation and what to do about it! Make your own opinions and decisions from a place of reason and common sense. Don't let anyone lead you down the wrong track! Take your power back--you get to choose how you feel.

Posted on July 28, 2016 and filed under emotional growth.

Change One Thing

Sometimes it seems like nothing works the way it should. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle and you don’t even feel comfortable in your body.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s quite simple, really…just change ONE thing.

Read a magazine article you would never typically even consider. Try a new type of restaurant. Take a different route to work. Any simple change of scenery can shift your perspective, and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

It’s like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Annoyance can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song.

You don’t have to tackle the whole enchilada, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

Posted on July 13, 2016 and filed under emotional growth.

Happiness Comes From Love & Gratitude

Every day, people buy too much stuff, eat too much food, and waste away their hours chasing after happiness…to no avail. They may find excitement or satiation, but TRUE HAPPINESS still eludes them.

Fortunately, happiness is really inexpensive and pretty simple to find, but that doesn’t mean that it comes easily. However, if you’re bold, and truly willing to commit to a few simple steps, happiness will be yours in just a short while.

1.      Quit Complaining.

The first step to finding happiness is to stop trying to find what’s wrong with the world around you. There’s plenty to complain about, but if you focus all of your attention there, you’ll never see the good stuff.

2.      Choose To Live In Love.

Falling in love with the world (and people) around you is a sure step toward happiness…and it’s easy. Simply accept people for who they are, and choose to see the good in them. Don’t expect it…CHOOSE it…then express it.

3.      Appreciate Everything.

Start expressing your gratitude every day. If you’d like, keep a gratitude journal and write down at least 3 things you’re grateful for every morning. Before long, you’ll have more things to appreciate than you can count.

Becoming happy may mean “looking like a fool” or changing A LOT of your current habits, but I promise you…it sure beats the alternative.

What can YOU do to create more happiness in your life TODAY?

Posted on June 26, 2016 and filed under health and wellness.

Don’t Try to Make Lemonade (out of lemons) Without Doing This First

Sometimes life really sucks. Maybe you’re going through a divorce or your child is sick or you’re sick. Basically, you’re on your hands and knees either praying or searching the floor for answers. How on earth do you deal with this pile of lemons that life handed you? You certainly don’t run out and get all the equipment to make lemonade. Hold on! First and foremost, you need to process the situation and get to a strong enough place to be able to make the gosh-darn lemonade. Here is the process that I use to recover from lemon sh*t storms (eg. ugly breakups, health challenges and/or financial crises):

1.       Don’t sugar coat it. Yes, of course, a positive attitude is necessary in life and your attitude and choices do make a difference. However, when you’re lying face down in the dirt, you certainly don’t want some Pollyanna to come along and say, “Just look at the bright side.” Clear the room of all annoyingly positive people who want you to quickly get over your “negative” feelings. Find a listener who is willing to be there while you talk about how horrible everything is. (Put a time limit on this).

2.       Take care of yourself. If you’re not able to muster the strength to cook, eat or drink fluids then call someone to take care of you. Just because you’re suffering emotionally doesn’t mean you have to drive your body to the brink of dehydration and malnourishment. Don’t forget this part: the proper nutrition will feed your brain and allow you to process your emotions. Essentially, food and water will help you heal your trauma faster. If you don’t have an appetite, drink fluids and eat soup broth. Note: feeling selfish for doing this is so 1985.

3.       Enlist a helper. When you need to get day to day things done, but you’re in the midst of an emotional upheaval, you need to ask for help. Get someone to take care of the mail, make phone calls, feed the pets, etc. Don’t let daily tasks worry or burden you—you have bigger things to deal with. Note: see note under #2.

4.       Make decisions to the best of your ability. There are times when we have to make some really hard decisions—maybe we need to figure out where to live or what to do after a job loss or what treatment would be the best for a family member. Once you have the bases covered (#1-3) you can free up some energy to make decisions. Ask yourself the hard questions, let them come up. Voice your worst case scenario or biggest fear (fears lose their power if they are brought into the light). Then close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and ask for guidance. What follows may be an insight, a gut feeling or an urge to take the next step. Follow it.

5.       Find the feel better button. Find one thing that makes you feel better—whether it’s watching silly cat videos on YouTube or reading Archie comics— and do that. It lifts your spirits without denying the gravity of the situation. Doing simple things that make you feel better opens you up to more of the feel good hormones and allows you to think more clearly. Think of it as fine tuning your inner world.

Situations that take us down are painful, horrible and traumatic. When we make it to the others side, we learn how strong we are, how loving we can be and how compassionate we are for others. I’m not saying that it’s such a wonderful thing to go through bleak times, but there is definitely an upswing. When you start to feel like making lemonade, you know that you’re through the worst of it.

Discussion: What do you do when life throws you lemons? Comment below and share with your friends!

How to Win at Conflict Resolution (even when dealing with a drove of asses) TPQT #8

Truly Powerful Quick Tips--Video Series: Video #8
If you’ve ever had a major blow-out with a wildly unreasonable person, then you’re familiar with the emotional aftermath: powerlessness, frustration and outrage. Which is why many of us avoid standing up for ourselves (or doing anything that may cause conflict in the first place). What if there was a way to resolve conflict that does not rely on the reasonableness of the other party? In this quick and powerful video, I give you solid pointers on winning at conflict resolution--no matter who is staring you down across the table. Learn simple and effective tips to bring out the best possible outcome for everyone.
 

How to Get Past Fear to Get Sh*t Done (even if you feel paralyzed)

Do you really, really want to get something done, but you're terrified out of your mind to do it? In this Truly Powerful Quick Tip video (video #7 of 7), I talk about things you may be unaware of that greatly effect your confidence and ability to go for it in life. I also mentions a way to look at your situation that can also lift you above your own fears. Don't miss this one if you have a lot of big stuff to do and you're tired of letting fear get in the way.

How to Remind Yourself How Awesome You Are (even if you wish you could be Beyonce instead)

Do you love the Beyonces of the world, but feel crappy about yourself? There is a way to admire others and love yourself too!
In this video, I'll teach you how to have more confidence and reconnect with your own awesomeness. Learn about the super simple mirror trick and how to make sure you never live by the teeter totter metaphor again!

How to Make the Right Decision (even if you feel totally confused and overwhelmed)

In this video I'll give you a Truly Powerful quick tip on how to know right away what is the right decision for you. Learn how to bypass what is in the way of clarity by using this 100% accurate decision-making tool.
If you feel like you couldn't find your way out of a wet paper bag right now, stop everything and watch this video!

People Pleaser Tips: How to Stand Up for Yourself PP Style

Are you a People Pleaser?

I sure am...er...I mean...was. At this point in my life I definitely wouldn't call myself one of the The Bold and The Beautiful, but I can hold my own in most daily interactions. Except if you put me on Ramsay's Hell's Kitchen. I'd be the first one sobbing in a post elimination interview: "Where did I go wrong?! Where?!"

Here are the ins and outs of the People Pleaser lifestyle and some pointers on how to steer yourself in the direction of your inner female warrior instead.
 

Behaviour

  • You swallow that lump in your throat called anger/annoyance/hurt because you don’t want to upset anyone by being upset.

Welcome to my teens and most of my twenties. On my deathbed I'll probably gasp out a final message: "It's rush hour. Tell them I'll hang on."
 

Scenario

  • I’m standing in a really long line-up and someone boldly steps in front of me.

People Pleaser response: Rolling of the eyes. And of course you don't let the unscrupulous person see this—that would be rude!

Non-People Pleaser response: “I was in front of you. The line is back there."
 

Scenario number two

  • A friend says they’ll call me back and then doesn’t. Then they do it again. And again. And again.

People Pleaser response: A programmed parrot: "No problem. No problem. No problem."

Non-People Pleaser response: "WTF is wrong with you?"

Non-People Pleaser response--less hostile: "Why aren't you calling me back?"
 

People Pleaser Life Consequences

What are the consequences of this type of parroting and swallowing behaviour? Inappropriate emotional outbursts.

The resentment starts a slow burn in the abdomen, like a cat growl working its way up from the low belly and climbing into the throat--but you don’t let it out. You swallow it. You continue to do this—until one day, out of the blue, you're ranting and raving to a friend like someone who stopped taking their very strong medication. You let them have it with both barrels in a voice like a frustrated Fran Drescher.

After a couple of decades I began to realize that these outbursts are not optimal for my life or my blood pressure. I set out to try and release the pressure little by little, in the moment. This is like opening the nozzle of an air mattress instead of violently stabbing it with a butcher knife.
 

People Pleaser tips

I use these strategies to stand up for myself instead of exploding like a hand grenade all over my unsuspecting friends and family. When something happens that doesn't sit right with you--stop and acknowledge the feeling. This is the do or die moment, the speak or swallow opportunity.

  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Imagine that you are the other person-would you want to know when a friend is upset about something?
  3. Use the format: I feel______ when you_________. Example: I feel frustrated when you tell me that you’re going to call and then you don’t. I wait for your call when I could be doing something else and I feel like my time is not being respected.
  4. Say nothing else—don’t start babbling nonsense like an excited baby in order to soften the blow or muffle your message. Let them speak. Give them a chance to respond.
     

Insider tip

  • They may not say: “Wow I’m so sorry! I didn’t realize I was doing that! I’ll make sure I do what I say I’m going to do from now on.” They might say: “Screw you. You always make a big deal of everything! What a drama queen.” Granted, if they say that to you I’d want to check your friend-choosing skills because that is a much bigger mess. Future blog post?

Life is not a Growing Pains episode and people don’t really sit around having heart to heart talks that resolve in twenty-two minutes. When a friend or family member responds in a hurtful or reactionary manner that is about them, not you. The best thing to do is pull back and check yourself. Don’t jump in and get defensive. This may lead to a Maury Povich episode with lots of hair pulling.

The best advice I’ve heard on how to deal with conflict or upset is to get curious. Get curious about what someone is thinking/feeling or experiencing. This takes the personal twinge out of it.
 

Another insider tip

Try saying this in response to a doozy of a statement from someone (even if it’s the most insulting thing you’ve ever heard): “Oh, interesting."

It will diffuse the situation and cause an uncomfortable silence. Stay with it. You're coming from a place of—“that’s interesting that you said that. That’s interesting that you think that. Hmm….interesting."

I find these simple strategies to be as non-threatening as possible with pleasing results—for you. So, remember to acknowledge what you're feeling and then try telling someone else about it. You may give them the courage to speak their own truth and then you’ll have the makings of an honest and mutually pleasing relationship.

Irritable Bowel Syndrome: How to Improve Symptoms and Have More Freedom in Your Life

Circa 1996—I’m twenty-two years old.

Scene: My doctor’s office

[This mysterious diagnosis came after two years of non-stop invasive testing that brought me closer to my bowel movements than anyone ever should be. My chronic symptoms—extreme pain and diarrhea—seemed to point to some type of cancer or a need for surgery. The stress and worry had rendered me a complete wreck. I braced myself.]

Doctor: You have IBS.

Me: What?

Doctor: Irritable Bowel Syndrome. It’s mostly caused by stress, nothing to worry about. It’ll go away once you get settled in life.

He pats me on the shoulder.  My doctor delivered me into this world—and that is the only reason he didn’t get an East Vancouver knuckle sandwich that day.

Present time—I’m older than twenty-two.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve been on quite a ride and most of it has involved a toilet bowl of some sort.

I’m assuming that if you’re reading this you are either

a) living with IBS

b) close to someone who is living with IBS and you don’t really know how to take it.

Does IBS really cause that much pain? Is he/she really going to run to the bathroom? Again??!

For all the skeptics: Yes, it really is that painful: I’ve been a sobbing mess at times.

How do you reduce the severity and frequency of IBS symptoms?

 First of all, I want to acknowledge some of the major psychological consequences:

1.       Anxiety—I’ve felt very anxious at times, when I feel my stomach cramping and hurting and knowing that I need a washroom and not being able to find one. Or someone is in the bathroom and I can’t use it. Major freak out attack!

2.       Embarrassment—Rueben, the male character in the movie Along Came Polly starring Jennifer Aniston and Ben Stiller is a perfect example of what can happen to someone who has IBS. It certainly is a comical problem to have, but only if you’re watching someone else go through it. Real life IBS is not as funny or heartwarming in a romcom type of way.

Man of your dreams: Baby, I love you.

Me: Er … sorry … hold that thought. I’ll be right back!

3.       Feeling judged—it’s also not so funny if you feel like people are giving you the eye because you’re heading to the work washroom yet again. Please for the love of all things holy, don’t ask about or bring attention to a co-worker’s bathroom habits. Just leave them alone and practice your compassionate self. If you are the one heading to the bathroom again, just do what you need to do and don’t feel the need to explain yourself or apologize for anything.

How to reduce IBS symptoms

Over the past twenty years I’ve developed a prevention protocol for IBS symptoms that works very well for me. There is no “cure” at this point so it’s all about managing the situation and prevention. These are the steps that I’ve taken and the results are nothing short of miraculous. I am not symptom free, but I’m not a slave to IBS as I was in the past.
Please note that since we are all individuals this protocol may not work for you, due to other conditions you may have. You can use the principles of what I’ve done and tailor them to your own situation. I’m confident that you will notice an improvement in your life nonetheless!

1.       Take probiotics—if you don’t take a high dose of probiotics every single day (CFUs count of at least 25-100 billion depending on the severity of your symptoms), put down your phone right now and go to the health food store. You can read the rest of this later. The healthy bacteria for your digestion tract contained in the probiotics (no, you can’t just eat some yogurt) helps regulate the irregular Peristalsis patterns caused by IBS. This one strategy has reduced my symptoms by at least 80%.

2.       No wheat—I used to eat a lot of bread. When I switched to Kamut, Spelt or Brown Rice bread I had a revolutionary reduction in symptoms. Wheat may be hard to digest and is a common allergen for people. I replaced all my wheat products—pasta, bread, etc.—with brown rice pasta, kamut bread, brown rice and quinoa products. This has been the single biggest change for me. However, there are so many yummy alternatives out there now, I know you’ll find wonderful replacements for your favorite foods.

3.       No dairy—this is following the same principle as with the replacement of wheat. Dairy can trigger people and cause “episodes.” Cutting dairy out of my diet made another massive improvement in the reduction of my symptoms.

4.       Seabuckthorn capsules—this amazing remedy has also made a beautiful change in my life. Seabuckthorn is high in Omega 7 which helps repair the mucous membranes of the body. Studies have shown positive results for people with IBS, including moi. I take 500mg per day.

5.       Managing stress—this is THE BIGGEST component. If you don’t figure out how to manage your stress, you’ll be living permanently in the bathroom. Not fun. I became a Reiki Master and I use Reiki on myself all the time. I like yoga—particularly Ashtanga, Hot or Hatha. I take walks. I breathe a lot when I’m stressed—slow deliberate breaths. I also use Rescue Remedy in times of intense stress. Develop your own lifeline when stressful times arrive.

What helps you the most?

I would love to hear about your experiences. Please share in the comments what has helped for you, so that all of us can benefit from the shared knowledge. Many blessings and I hope this has article has been useful!

Download my FREE pdf here: IBS cheatsheet to reduce symptoms

How to Deal with Anxiety: Avoid Living like you’re on The Mindy Project

Anxiety is no joke. Just take a look at what the characters on The Mindy Project go through on a daily basis: hidden skeletons (think Danny’s stripper thong), mammoth misunderstandings (Peter didn’t go to Dartmouth) and high pressure shenanigans (Mindy goes to California).

Thankfully, we don’t have to down bottles of wine or bribe people or hide under desks to cope with life’s ups and downs (although I do admire Mindy’s way with words).

We can handle our mangled nerves in a much more effective way. Here is a technique that I put into practice to soothe my anxiety. Try it and see—you’ll be amazed at how much it will change your experiences!

Mantras

Mantras: phrases or words that help you reach a desired state of being. For example, the mantra “OM”. Look up some Sanskrit words or phrases to find the ones that suit you best. These mantras allow you to focus and return to a calmer state of being.

Repeat them out loud, in your mind or write them out. The more you use them, the better they work. Once I got past the arguments that my mind tries to make (this is stupid, these words won’t work, this is a waste of time), I find that the mantras help me immensely. The trick is not to give in to the literal meaning behind the words and phrases. I used this one:

Everything is always working out perfectly for me. (Abraham Hicks)

Listen to my podcast for an in-depth explanation of why I used this phrase.

I repeated this phrase several times a day and looked at it on a piece of paper when I needed to return to a state of peace and calm. Over time, I found that something clicked into place and the phrase immediately brought me there. I had connected on a deeply spiritual level to the vibration of the phrase. This is what you can do too. Find your phrase and use it when you need it.

Put it on the fridge, in your wallet or on your desk. Look at it often.
Repeat the phrase as needed.

Remember to let go of the outcomes that you think are the best things for you and to realize when things show up for you (possibly in different packaging).

As adorable as Mindy is, you don’t have to worry about hurting peoples’ feelings, avoid intimidating situations or try to convince others of your worth. You can go back to the mantras and let things unfold instead. Ahhh…much better.

Posted on December 1, 2015 and filed under emotional growth.

Self-acceptance: Valuable Lessons from Shrek and Fiona

At first, Shrek struggled to accept himself; he thought that because he was an Ogre, nobody would ever love him. He assumed everyone would hate him and so he found it hard to love or accept himself. He had a negative view of who he was.

Fiona lived with a secret—she went from princess to Ogre every day when the sun went down. She was terrified that people would find out who she was and consequently judge her. She felt like an outcast and a freak; she couldn’t accept the fact that she was part princess and part Ogre.

The turning point for both of them came when they met Donkey and, of course, each other.

What does this have to do with self-acceptance? First of all, weaving my favorite characters into a blog post is so much fun! Second of all, don’t be fooled by animated movies. A lot of them deliver powerful messages about life. And no, I haven’t been smoking the wacky tobacky.

Take a look at some of the lessons that Shrek and Fiona deliver (all with cleverly-timed comic relief and Shrek’s delightful Scottish accent):

1.       Self-acceptance comes in the form of a mirror

Sometimes we can’t see how wonderful we are so the Universe sends a friend or lover along to relay the message. Donkey repeatedly offered his friendship to Shrek until Shrek finally realized that he was a pretty great Ogre after all. Think of the people in your life who stand by you and tell you how amazing you are. They are here to tell you what you may not be able to accept about yourself. Try to see yourself through an admirer’s eyes.

2.      Self-acceptance means loving all of yourself

Fiona overcomes the spell she is under the moment she accepts all of herself. She sheds the shame of not living up to what she thinks she’s supposed to be (a beautiful princess) and embraces her duality (light and shadow). The gift in this is when she realizes that Shrek loves her for being an Ogre. She evolves into the beautiful Fiona—the princess or Ogre aspects are no longer important. The point is that she accepted who she was and then the miracles unfolded. Accept yourself as you are and watch how others respond to you. More often than not, people are drawn to those who are authentic.

3.      Self-acceptance is a risk

Shrek takes a risk in the movie; he accepts Donkey into his life. In other words, he lets someone in. He had to get to the point where he accepted himself enough to realize that Donkey wanted to be part of his life. Shrek took the risk and opened up; he found true friendship. However, just because we accept ourselves doesn’t mean that we are accepted by everyone else. Fiona tried to hide who she was, but when it was revealed that she was part Ogre, the Lord Farquaad rejected her. When others reject us for who we are it is painful. This doesn’t mean that our response would be to reject ourselves. This means that the person is not the right fit for us. They are not meant to come on our life journey with us. That’s ok. This realization is liberating; we can accept ourselves even when others don’t. We can make more room for those who love us for who we are. A note about family—sometimes our family members don’t accept us. Again, this doesn’t mean that we have to believe them or agree with their view of us. Our opinion of ourselves is all that matters.

The next time you start to reject yourself, think about Shrek, Fiona, Donkey and friends living happily ever after as themselves, in the swamp. Or at the very least, they are living as happily as they can when faced with killjoys like Lord Farquaad, Rumpelstiltskin and the Fairy Godmother.

Posted on November 11, 2015 and filed under emotional growth.

What’s So Funny? How to Heal With Humor

What’s the fastest path to joy and peace? Laughter. From the very first time I had a giggle fit at the age of six and subsequently split my head open on the baseboard from laughing so hard, I was hooked. Laughter did something for my soul that nothing else could and it still guides me through all my challenges in life. This is why I firmly subscribe to this tenet: laughter is the best medicine.

And that ain’t no joke.

If laughter and humor is so great, then how can we use this transformational elixir to heal our wounds?

1.       Go back to your childhood. Don’t worry this is not about uncovering any hidden psychological hangups—we are looking for the funny. What made you laugh back then? If your uncle slipped down the stairs one winter and you found that hysterical—that’s one example. Did your brother pee on your babysitter? What made you laugh until it hurt? Bring up these memories and join in on the fun again. Think about those times and conjure them up when you’re feeling low. Your brain does not know the difference between now and then. If you are laughing at a memory, your body will experience it in the now. Your chemistry will change and bob’s your uncle—you’re on the funny train back to joy and peace.

2.       Raise your vibration. As mentioned above, laughing will change your brain chemistry. In the same way, your energy frequency will also change. The art of humor relies on surprise and shock in some cases. You are jolted out of your state of being into another one. Joy and laughter is a higher energy frequency than sadness, fear and anger. You can uplevel yourself with one outburst of laughter. How cool is that?! Use humor to shake yourself out of one state and into a more expanded one. When we are more relaxed, joyful and peaceful, the healing can take place in our body—we can release emotions and soothe the pain. We are not laughing our way OUT of an emotional experiences, we are laughing our way to resolution. Here is a chart that exemplifies the levels of vibrational frequency—not to be judge the levels as bad or good, but to see where you are on the scale of contraction or expansion. If you are more expansive, you can live life with more ease.

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3.       Pass it on. I know people who are naturally funny. You look at them and start to laugh hysterically. They don’t even have to blink, they are just FUNNY. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. If you are such a person, please pass this gift on to others. Spread the joy. This is healing and cathartic for you as well. Making people laugh is the greatest joy in life for some. Most stand-up comedians have had a really rough life. They use the comedy to transcend their pain. To joke about their tragedies is incredibly healing—for the performer and the audience. The next time you feel low, try making someone laugh. The results will be transformative.

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What do you find funny? Who makes you laugh more than anyone? Share below and spread the joy!

Posted on September 13, 2015 and filed under emotional growth.