Posts tagged #self-awareness

3 Ways to Accept Yourself and Live a Happier Life

Social media is a breeding ground for epically low self-esteem, comparisonitis and basically wishing you were anyone else. Being bombarded on a daily basis by the supermodel instagrammers, the jetsetters who globetrot with their entourage of cats and funny memes and even your colleague with the new blindingly white smile, it’s a wonder we can even get up in the morning.

How do we accept ourselves when everyone else seems to be skinnier, happier and richer or spending time with someone who is skinnier, happier and richer than they are?

Self-acceptance is a magical force—the more we lean into it, the more we flourish and flower and thrive.

Here are 3 ways to start accepting yourself (so you can stop feeling bad by what everyone else is doing) and feel happier in your own skin!

1.       Let go of resistance to what is. Resistance looks like wishing, hoping, denying, criticizing, cursing, raging against, forcing, ridiculing, belittling, shaming, ignoring, depriving and disconnecting. The things about you that you can’t change are: height, age, race, orientation and past experiences. Not a long list is it? Sit with those aspects of yourself and say: I accept that I am ….. and read out these aspects. Spend every day accepting and acknowledging these aspects of yourself. When you feel comfortable with that, you can move into: I love that I am … read out the same aspects.
 

2.       Ask yourself what you’re unhappy with. Is it your weight? Your income? Your relationship status? All these things you can change. BUT FIRST YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPT THEM THE WAY THEY ARE RIGHT NOW. Ok, so I’m 180 lbs right now. I’m making $40,000 per year. I’m single. Say these things out loud. This is where the saying “say it like it is” comes in. You have to look at your life with an honest lens. You have to accept what is.
 

3.       Release the emotional charge around the sticky points. If you’ve always had a problem with your weight or if you can’t find a healthy relationship then there are a lot of emotions tied up in that experience. In order to change anything, you have to clear the barriers in the way of making change: negative emotions and beliefs. Use tapping (tap on one point and tell the story of that experience until you have a release) to let go of the emotions surrounding your weight, relationship status and income situation. From there you can actually move forward and start making changes.

One last point about all the fabulous, beautiful and fancy free people on social media. They deserve to be happy too don’t they? If they become unhappy or suddenly aren’t as beautiful as they were or lose all their money, would all that goodness transfer to your life? No. So stay in your own lane, but wave and blow kisses to all those beside you. They all want what you want: to live a happy and fulfilling life. Let’s cheer each other on.

For more resources on how to be who you’re meant to be while surrounded by other high-vibing truth seekers, join my Facebook group: Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body

Peace at Last? Body vs Mind

One summer afternoon, Mind and Body watch the sun dance on the water.

Although the scenery is peaceful and lovely, Mind is irritated with Body, as usual.

“You’re getting quite hefty,” Mind observes, sweeping her eyes over Body disapprovingly.

“What would you know? You’ve never been anything more than a bunch of thoughts. You don’t understand the physical. You’re all up in your head all the time.”

“A big FAT head, you’re right about that,” Mind shoots back.

Body folds her arms and turns away from Mind. Her stomach tightens. Ice cream would be good right now. Anything to override this tension.  

What does Mind know anyway? It’s not easy being flesh and blood.

Mind can’t handle a fifth of the nasty shit Body puts up with on the regular.
 

Body remarks coldly, “You’ve never felt anything in your life. You just THINK you have.” Body chuckles at her cleverness. 

Mind stews over this for an hour and a half. She unpacks each sentence and replays the words, making note of every nuance and tone Body used.

Her conclusion is that Body hates her and wants to destroy Mind.

Mind begins to plot her revenge.

“Next time you go out on the town be sure to wear your tight purple dress—the one that shows off all your bulges … I mean curves.” Mind sits back, proud of her Machiavellian style attack.

Mind feels triumphant: Body can’t take anyone criticizing her size!
 

But to Mind’s surprise, Body pulls herself up to full height.

And begins to dance. And twirl and twirl.

She flings her arms out, feeling the wind in her fingers and the song in her heart.

Each twirl fills Body with more and more joy.

Mind yells, “Stop this stupidity!”

Body twirls and twirls.

 

Mind wails, “The neighbours will laugh!”

Body sways and jumps, blood pulsating through her veins.

Mind stops yelling.

Mind stops everything. 

This is kinda cool she thinks grudgingly.

And she falls silent.

And Body dances and dances and dances.

 

Have you ever felt as if your mind and body were battling it out? Share your comments and stories below.

Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body Guidelines

Welcome to the Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body community!

Chronic anxiety and other physical and emotional conditions will NEVER HEAL and in fact they will continue to get worse, unless you deal with your underlying emotional traumas and stuck emotions.

My community is about helping sensitive souls who are ready to heal their emotional traumas so they can finally feel safe and at home in their body. If you're ready for peace of mind and freedom, you're in the right place!

NOBODY ELSE IS ADDRESSING THE UNDERLYING ISSUES THAT KEEP YOU FEELING STRESSED, ANXIOUS AND FRUSTRATED YEAR AFTER YEAR

Here are some of the amazing benefits you will receive in this sacred and uplifting group:

  • Feel relieved as you finally learn the root causes of your physical conditions such as anxiety.

  • Feel supported with deeply healing tools to unravel and clear toxic emotions so that you are no longer at war with your body.

  • Feel calm and centred the more you connect to your True Self and have the clarity you've been looking for.

Here is the link to share for the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

DAILY THEMES

Acceptance Monday: One of the things I stand for and that I follow to get powerful results for my clients, is the principle of RADICAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE. That means that we acknowledge, embrace and integrate ALL PARTS OF OURSELVES NO MATTER WHAT. Healing starts with a declaration of acceptance to yourself. What are you willing to accept about yourself this week?

Truly Me Tuesday: MY FAVOURITE DAY OF THE WEEK! ALL HEALING AND TRANSFORMATION DEPENDS ON OUR CONNECTION AND EXPRESSION OF WHO WE REALLY ARE

Share some of the things that allows you to express your True Self. Examples can be poems, crafts, art, even a pic of the amazing meal you created or the garden you tend. I can't wait to see what you do to express your True Self!

Willingness Wednesday: We may think we're ready to heal, we may insist that we are open, but sometimes we are not. Today we are going to change that! Tune in and find where you feel resistant and declare that you are willing to let it go, find help or have a different experience. Post it below to really get the energy moving!!

Aha Thursday: Post your ahas about your experience of anxiety this week. What have you noticed? What is working? What are you struggling with? Tell us your lightbulb moment. It can be light and funny or deep and profound--you pick!

Fave Friday: Share your favourite people, place or thing—pic or gif or description. 

Soothing Sunday: How do you help your soul relax, recharge and unwind?

 

POSTS THAT ARE ENCOURAGED

  • Participating in the daily themes, telling us about yourself, sharing stories that are uplifting or inspirational

  • Helpful resources that you would like to share with the group—that helped you personally

  • Any questions or comments about your own journey

  • Requests for support and encouragement if you're having a difficult or challenging time

  • Questions about the HEAL YOUR EMOTIONS, HEAL YOUR BODY community: for clarification or when in need of more details
     

POSTS THAT ARE NOT TOLERATED

  • Offering UNSOLICITED (meaning the person did not ask for advice or guidance) counselling, therapy or coaching to other members-it is fine to offer love, support and encouragement

  • Insults, shaming or ridicule of others' posts and sharing

  • No spamming of business offers or marketing/commercial posts; this is not a group to promote your business


INVITE YOUR FRIENDS

To invite your friends to this community, send them a personal message with the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

Do not add people to the group without their permission.
Always ask first.

Three Ways to Stop Devaluing Yourself

Do you ever do things that don't feel very good but that you think you should be doing anyway--to be a good person or to do the right thing? I get it--I just described most of my teens and twenties. The problem with behaving in ways that don't feel good is that you are not valuing yourself. We get so wrapped up in being the good daughter or the perfect employee or the helpful citizen that we lose sight of our own needs and desires. That is the ultimate devaluing practice. The consequences are far reaching; we may feel depressed, unfulfilled, anxious, bitter, resentful or just plain exhausted.

Here are three ways that you may not be valuing yourself and exercises that you can do to practice self-love instead:

1. Constant Improvements. If you are like me, you enjoy the practice of self-improvement and personal development. However, we can fall into the trap where we get so determined to improve this and improve that, that we don't stop and say, "This feeling is ok" or "I'm ok the way I am. Yes, I want to grow and evolve but I am perfect the way I am right now." You are ok the way you are--no matter what flaws you feel that you have. All your feelings are ok. Come from that place and move forward. Exercise: Write down all the things you want to improve about yourself and then write down beside each one, "I love this flaw. I love myself no matter what." Repeat these out loud. When you start to feel more loving towards yourself then you can move on to expanding into the new.

2. Holding back for others. You're a loving and compassionate person. That doesn't mean that you need to stay where you are because others are in a certain stage in their life. It may be scary to change and grow when others around you aren't, but there is nothing scarier than stagnation and wasting your precious life. Ask yourself--what will happen if my loved ones stay where they are and I evolve into my greatest potential? Will they walk away? Will they be angry, jealous or resentful? Will they reject me? I have relatives that no longer talk to me because they were so uncomfortable with my spiritual and personal growth. It was damn painful. But ultimately I came to the realization that I'm living my life, not theirs. On the other hand, I've bonded more than ever with other loved ones. The bottom line is that making others comfortable is a terrible trap and you're the one who will suffer the most. Exercise: Make a declaration in your journal: "As I grow, I invite others to grow. As I shine my light, I invite others to shine their light. As I love myself, others will be inspired to also go within and love themselves. I acknowledge my free will and the free will of others to take this spiritual invitation. I love myself no matter what the choice of others may be. I trust that those who love me unconditionally will surround me. My self-love sustains me through all. And so it is."

3. Doing things for the greater good. As a beautiful and giving person, you decide that you're going to be selfless and do what's for the greater good (best for everyone). You may decide to do your spiritual duty and put aside your personal desires and needs to help others or improve a situation. This is another big trap. We are here to model and show others how to love ourselves more deeply and more authentically. That means that as we value and honor our own desires and needs, we let others know its ok for them to do the same. This creates a ripple effect happens that spreads love around the world--for the greater good. Exercise: Visualize energy coming from above and below you, running through you and exiting through your heart space and expanding out. Do this every day for two minutes. You will train yourself to give from the inside out, filling yourself up first.

Looking for more practical ways to love and honor yourself? Dive in with my self-help ebook based on my spiritual journey from self-sabotage to self-love. Practical exercises and inspiration included!

What Would Little Red Riding Hood Do? 7 Ways to Face Your Wolf and Live Happily Ever After

Comment below: How do you practice self-love?

The Evolution of Self-Love: Three Phases (original poem)

Phase one: Other/Comparison/Jealousy/

If I was you
I'd be much better off.

Your grass grows greener
(like an envious brother)

Your smile seems cooler
(like an empty mother)

Your pocket runs deeper
(like a broken teacher)

If I was you
I'd be better off.

Phase two: Angst/Self-loathing

If I wasn't me
I'd be much better off.

I'd ring true
(like the weekly preacher)

I'd jump for joy
(like the tied-down seeker)

I'd be free of a limp tongue
and a chest full of
nos

If I wasn't me
I'd be better off.

Phase three: Acceptance and self-adoration

If I were me
I'd be much better off.

I'd hug the betrayals
out of my lungs

I'd sing the praises of
life's good graces

I'd slip me on
like a new suit,
freshly pressed with hope

I am me.

I am me.

I am.

And I'm much better off.

Change One Thing

Sometimes it seems like nothing works the way it should. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle and you don’t even feel comfortable in your body.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s quite simple, really…just change ONE thing.

Read a magazine article you would never typically even consider. Try a new type of restaurant. Take a different route to work. Any simple change of scenery can shift your perspective, and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

It’s like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Annoyance can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song.

You don’t have to tackle the whole enchilada, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

Posted on July 13, 2016 and filed under emotional growth.

How to Move Forward When You Feel Stuck (even if your inner critic is going nuts)

Spinning your wheels with your goals? Is your inner critic letting you have it--"Why Can't You Figure This Out? What's Wrong with you?"
In this video you'll get some Truly Powerful Quick Tips on how to move past your inner critic and start gaining momentum again. Your dreams await!

Posted on June 9, 2016 and filed under emotional growth.

How to Win at Conflict Resolution (even when dealing with a drove of asses) TPQT #8

Truly Powerful Quick Tips--Video Series: Video #8
If you’ve ever had a major blow-out with a wildly unreasonable person, then you’re familiar with the emotional aftermath: powerlessness, frustration and outrage. Which is why many of us avoid standing up for ourselves (or doing anything that may cause conflict in the first place). What if there was a way to resolve conflict that does not rely on the reasonableness of the other party? In this quick and powerful video, I give you solid pointers on winning at conflict resolution--no matter who is staring you down across the table. Learn simple and effective tips to bring out the best possible outcome for everyone.
 

How to Remind Yourself How Awesome You Are (even if you wish you could be Beyonce instead)

Do you love the Beyonces of the world, but feel crappy about yourself? There is a way to admire others and love yourself too!
In this video, I'll teach you how to have more confidence and reconnect with your own awesomeness. Learn about the super simple mirror trick and how to make sure you never live by the teeter totter metaphor again!

How to Make the Right Decision (even if you feel totally confused and overwhelmed)

In this video I'll give you a Truly Powerful quick tip on how to know right away what is the right decision for you. Learn how to bypass what is in the way of clarity by using this 100% accurate decision-making tool.
If you feel like you couldn't find your way out of a wet paper bag right now, stop everything and watch this video!