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Anxiety is no joke. Just take a look at what the characters on The Mindy Project go through on a daily basis: hidden skeletons (think Danny’s stripper thong), mammoth misunderstandings (Peter didn’t go to Dartmouth) and high pressure shenanigans (Mindy goes to California).
Thankfully, we don’t have to down bottles of wine or bribe people or hide under desks to cope with life’s ups and downs (although I do admire Mindy’s way with words).
We can handle our mangled nerves in a much more effective way. Here is a technique that I put into practice to soothe my anxiety. Try it and see—you’ll be amazed at how much it will change your experiences!
Mantras: phrases or words that help you reach a desired state of being. For example, the mantra “OM”. Look up some Sanskrit words or phrases to find the ones that suit you best. These mantras allow you to focus and return to a calmer state of being.
Repeat them out loud, in your mind or write them out. The more you use them, the better they work. Once I got past the arguments that my mind tries to make (this is stupid, these words won’t work, this is a waste of time), I find that the mantras help me immensely. The trick is not to give in to the literal meaning behind the words and phrases. I used this one:
Everything is always working out perfectly for me. (Abraham Hicks)
Listen to my podcast for an in-depth explanation of why I used this phrase.
I repeated this phrase several times a day and looked at it on a piece of paper when I needed to return to a state of peace and calm. Over time, I found that something clicked into place and the phrase immediately brought me there. I had connected on a deeply spiritual level to the vibration of the phrase. This is what you can do too. Find your phrase and use it when you need it.
Put it on the fridge, in your wallet or on your desk. Look at it often.
Repeat the phrase as needed.
Remember to let go of the outcomes that you think are the best things for you and to realize when things show up for you (possibly in different packaging).
As adorable as Mindy is, you don’t have to worry about hurting peoples’ feelings, avoid intimidating situations or try to convince others of your worth. You can go back to the mantras and let things unfold instead. Ahhh…much better.
What’s the fastest path to joy and peace? Laughter. From the very first time I had a giggle fit at the age of six and subsequently split my head open on the baseboard from laughing so hard, I was hooked. Laughter did something for my soul that nothing else could and it still guides me through all my challenges in life. This is why I firmly subscribe to this tenet: laughter is the best medicine.
And that ain’t no joke.
If laughter and humor is so great, then how can we use this transformational elixir to heal our wounds?
1. Go back to your childhood. Don’t worry this is not about uncovering any hidden psychological hangups—we are looking for the funny. What made you laugh back then? If your uncle slipped down the stairs one winter and you found that hysterical—that’s one example. Did your brother pee on your babysitter? What made you laugh until it hurt? Bring up these memories and join in on the fun again. Think about those times and conjure them up when you’re feeling low. Your brain does not know the difference between now and then. If you are laughing at a memory, your body will experience it in the now. Your chemistry will change and bob’s your uncle—you’re on the funny train back to joy and peace.
2. Raise your vibration. As mentioned above, laughing will change your brain chemistry. In the same way, your energy frequency will also change. The art of humor relies on surprise and shock in some cases. You are jolted out of your state of being into another one. Joy and laughter is a higher energy frequency than sadness, fear and anger. You can uplevel yourself with one outburst of laughter. How cool is that?! Use humor to shake yourself out of one state and into a more expanded one. When we are more relaxed, joyful and peaceful, the healing can take place in our body—we can release emotions and soothe the pain. We are not laughing our way OUT of an emotional experiences, we are laughing our way to resolution. Here is a chart that exemplifies the levels of vibrational frequency—not to be judge the levels as bad or good, but to see where you are on the scale of contraction or expansion. If you are more expansive, you can live life with more ease.
3. Pass it on. I know people who are naturally funny. You look at them and start to laugh hysterically. They don’t even have to blink, they are just FUNNY. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. If you are such a person, please pass this gift on to others. Spread the joy. This is healing and cathartic for you as well. Making people laugh is the greatest joy in life for some. Most stand-up comedians have had a really rough life. They use the comedy to transcend their pain. To joke about their tragedies is incredibly healing—for the performer and the audience. The next time you feel low, try making someone laugh. The results will be transformative.
What do you find funny? Who makes you laugh more than anyone? Share below and spread the joy!