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FIVE SURPRISING BLOCKS TO HEALING YOUR ANXIETY FOR GOOD (AND WHAT YOU CAN DO INSTEAD)  

Anxiety overshadows every area of your life.

 Not only do you wake up to waves of dread every morning …

 
When you go to work you feel like no one likes you …

 
You feel resentful of those who seem to have it so easy …

AND

To top it all off, you’re exhausted by the constant aches and pains and lack of sleep!

 

So, you’ve taken the bull by the horns.

You decided that you’re not going to sit around and let the anxiety get the better of you.

You developed some ways to manage and cope with these terrible symptoms.

You feel pretty happy about it—they seem like good strategies and you are very dedicated to doing them every day.

 

The problem is:  YOUR ANXIETY IS WORSE THAN EVER

 

WAKE UP CALL: These strategies are blocking you from healing your anxiety.

How? Because you are creating habits that pull you away from healing the root cause.

The root cause is the central limiting belief, thought pattern, habit, childhood wound and/or family lineage conditioning that built the container for the anxiety to manifest.

If you aren’t dealing with the root cause, you are chasing your tail and losing the time you could have being anxiety free.

 
As an International Medical Intuitive Healer, I’ve overcome my own chronic anxiety, IBS and skin issues at the very root cause. I now dedicate my life and soul purpose to helping you find a way out of the experience so you can be at peace with yourself. So, you can finally feel at home.

 

To really help you and illustrate what I mean, I’ve created a list of the FIVE SURPRISING BLOCKS THAT ACTUALLY LEAD YOU AWAY FROM FINDING THE ROOT CAUSE OF YOUR ANXIETY (and effective strategies you can do instead):

 

  1. You like to be productive

As a Type A personality (which I am through and through), I understand that this is an especially difficult pattern to overcome.  You need to really be honest with yourself: are you being productive or are you are avoiding feeling or knowing something? When we take the time to do nothing and throw out the construct of being useful, feelings, awareness and insight come to the surface. These are your clues to the root cause of your anxiety. Your body and your Higher Self will waste no time giving you the clarity you need.

What to do instead: Schedule a time at least once per day to sit for 10 minutes and do absolutely nothing. You can close your eyes, hold a mug of tea and stare out the window. This is your nothing time. If you have trouble with this then label it as “By doing nothing I am getting closer to healing my anxiety. This is my way of being productive right now.”

  1. You always look at the bright side

This pattern is especially damaging. If you always look at the bright side, your wounded aspects feel ignored and mistreated. Being positive can be another avoidance tactic to stay away from the root cause of your anxiety. What if you don’t feel positive and you ignore it? What will happen? These feelings will go deeper underground into your psyche and resurface as a surge of anxiety. We become anxious when we are trying to control or push painful experiences and feelings away. It is a valuable signal that we have been ignoring our true feelings if we only look at the bright side.

What to do instead: Do an honest journal entry about how you feel. Free flow write for at least 20 minutes without stopping or censoring any words (no matter how shocking they may be!). Use all the words that feel uncomfortable. The more your mind tells you what a terrible person you are for even feeling this way, the closer you are to hitting your emotional release. At the end of the entry, thank yourself for showing up and being real. You’ll be amazed at how relieved you feel. Repeat this 1-2 times per week to get to the deepest core of your feelings.

  1. You love to set goals and achieve them

Goals themselves are not the problem. I encourage you to have goals and dreams and to go after them. The thing to watch out for is when you jump from one goal to the next to the next. If we don’t pause and celebrate how far we’ve come, we never feel like we’re good enough. We also don’t feel like we’ve changed. And this creates more anxiety. I guarantee that you’ll be very surprised when you take the time to see how much you’ve actually changed. When you acknowledge your success, you’ll feel more confident and release the need to pressure yourself into another goal right away.

What to do instead:

Write out a comparison to where you were a year ago with your anxiety and trigger situations. On a piece of paper create three different sections: work, relationships and health. Jot down what you were feeling/experiencing then and how you are feeling now for each section.  Be as detailed as possible. Then do something to celebrate how far you’ve come!

  1. You are humble

As someone who suffered from anxiety for over 25 years, I had trouble feeling good about myself. I felt less than and incapable of doing the simplest things. I found a way to reframe this low self-esteem in a shroud of false humility. It felt better to say: “I’m a good person and good people don’t draw attention to themselves. I don’t brag or talk about myself because that would mean I’m arrogant. I’m a nice, humble person.” The reality was that I felt worthless. Once I healed the wounds that made me feel terrible about myself, I didn’t want to be “humble” anymore. I wanted to talk about the amazing things I could do. Being a good person does not mean hiding your awesomeness!

What to do instead:

Write down 10 beautiful qualities and traits about yourself. If you have trouble with this exercise, think of the compliments you’ve received from others over the years. They are reflecting your essence back to you. It’s your job to accept and receive your UNLIMITED GREATNESS with open arms: that is true humility.

  1. You dedicate yourself to your loved ones

When we make our lives about others to the point of ignoring our own needs and wants, we are doing the world a great disservice. You are depriving others of your greatest self. You are keeping your true potential hidden and dormant. Others who would be inspired and transformed from your presence will miss that gift. Sacrificing your life and health to serve others is an act of self-abuse. You will not get to the root cause of your own suffering if you make your life all about others. I’m not talking about ignoring the needs of others, I’m talking about stopping the destructive pattern of ignoring your own needs. Your loved ones will benefit greatly from your own wholeness and vitality and inner peace. Ten fold.

What to do instead:

Take note of all the things you like to do for others. Now pick two of those things and do them for yourself once a week. Book 1:1 time for yourself and do those acts of service for you. This will help you get to know your needs better (or for the first time) so you can truly heal.

 

Comment below: Which number resonates the most with you or Which one was the most surprising to you? What are you going to do today to start healing your anxiety?

Posted on January 28, 2019 and filed under anxiety remedy.

Peace at Last? Body vs Mind

One summer afternoon, Mind and Body watch the sun dance on the water.

Although the scenery is peaceful and lovely, Mind is irritated with Body, as usual.

“You’re getting quite hefty,” Mind observes, sweeping her eyes over Body disapprovingly.

“What would you know? You’ve never been anything more than a bunch of thoughts. You don’t understand the physical. You’re all up in your head all the time.”

“A big FAT head, you’re right about that,” Mind shoots back.

Body folds her arms and turns away from Mind. Her stomach tightens. Ice cream would be good right now. Anything to override this tension.  

What does Mind know anyway? It’s not easy being flesh and blood.

Mind can’t handle a fifth of the nasty shit Body puts up with on the regular.
 

Body remarks coldly, “You’ve never felt anything in your life. You just THINK you have.” Body chuckles at her cleverness. 

Mind stews over this for an hour and a half. She unpacks each sentence and replays the words, making note of every nuance and tone Body used.

Her conclusion is that Body hates her and wants to destroy Mind.

Mind begins to plot her revenge.

“Next time you go out on the town be sure to wear your tight purple dress—the one that shows off all your bulges … I mean curves.” Mind sits back, proud of her Machiavellian style attack.

Mind feels triumphant: Body can’t take anyone criticizing her size!
 

But to Mind’s surprise, Body pulls herself up to full height.

And begins to dance. And twirl and twirl.

She flings her arms out, feeling the wind in her fingers and the song in her heart.

Each twirl fills Body with more and more joy.

Mind yells, “Stop this stupidity!”

Body twirls and twirls.

 

Mind wails, “The neighbours will laugh!”

Body sways and jumps, blood pulsating through her veins.

Mind stops yelling.

Mind stops everything. 

This is kinda cool she thinks grudgingly.

And she falls silent.

And Body dances and dances and dances.

 

Have you ever felt as if your mind and body were battling it out? Share your comments and stories below.

BEING SPIRITUAL MAKES YOU BATSHIT CRAZY

Have you ever wondered if your spiritual efforts are of any use? I mean, is there really a point to any of it? I wonder the same thing almost every day. Which is why I invite you into my psyche (not psycho, psyche) for a quick visit. I wouldn’t stay very long or things will get a bit weird. I hardly know you.

As long as you promise to get in and get out, I will open up the curtain to the inner workings of my mind. Think of it as a bizarre meetup group that you wish you’d never gone to.

But seriously, I hope you enjoy this pointless, fictional illustration of the ups and downs of being on a spiritual journey. After you read it, I’m sure you’ll agree that you should just give it all up and become a professional poker player.

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Armed with my oracle cards, rain coat and reusable coffee mug, I begin to ascend my Mt Everest of UNWORTHINESS.

Halfway up, I stumble, twisting my ankle (AGAIN DAMMIT!) over a rock called BIG TIME DADDY ISSUES.

I keep going and walk it off—the swelling isn’t too noticeable. It looks like I stuffed a loaf of bread in my sock, but nothing a constant amount of pressure can’t improve.  

Fast forward (because this is already boring): I’m hanging by my fingernails from the summit. “Um, Universe a little help?”

“Just let go!” he yells down from the top.

Really? Well, I guess I could give it a little trust and faith and all that. Here goes: I LET GO.

Plummeting towards the earth at break neck speed, I start to panic.

“Build your wings on the way down? Who the fuck thought of that plan?!”

Just as my nose is about to hit the bottom, a majestic flying horse gallantly swoops me up. We ascend into the heavens once again.

Ahhh…God is great. I feel so alive! What a beautiful view up here. ALL IS WELL.

I feel at one with everything, especially with this strong horse! I feel so much love and I could kiss everyone--EVEN the jerk who stole my seat at Starbucks last week. My heart is as warm and fuzzy as a box of kittens.

I’m too drunk on love to notice that my winged specimen of grace has tipped forward. He drops me from a height of 1000ft into a predator infested jungle.

Umpf! I hit the ground, flattened. “Thanks for the ride, four-legged one!” I squeak. He’s gone. Well, that was rude.

Lying on my back I think, I could really go for a plate of fries right now. This spiritual survival shit makes me hungry.

After a few hours of shaking my fist at the powers that be, I gather myself up and step through the mud, past snakes and unidentifiable deadly creatures, looking for shelter. Eventually, I come upon a Rabbit. Peter Rabbit, I assume.

I feel a real kinship and begin to tell him my problems. He blinks and hops away. Snow White, I am apparently not.

A couple of miles and a bad case of poison ivy later, I come upon a cottage. This is it! Just like in The Shack! I’m saved.

I go inside and a lovely woman with long red hair greets me. She gestures to the chair by the fire and hands me a mug of tea. Smiling, she says, “You need to practice being grateful, my child.” She is about 35ish and I’m middle aged. Awkward.

“Mother… er … can I call you that? I assure you I’m very grateful for my life. Like the time I fell from the summit of Mt Everest, being thrown to the ground by a giant winged horse and crawling through Poison Ivy with low blood sugar. I am eternally grateful for these mind-bending opportunities. But when does it start to get good?”

“It’s all in the way you look at it. It’s either a failure or a learning. Everything is happening FOR you, not TO you.”

Hmm … so if I punched her in the mouth, it would be FOR her. I mull this over.

Presently, I fall asleep by the fire, with visions of violence dancing in my head … all through the night not a creature is stirring, not even a mouse.

I wake up in my own bed, in my normal apartment, on a normal Tuesday at normal o’clock. Had it all been a dream? It couldn’t be! It was too real.

Then I remember I have a Chakra Reshaping appointment scheduled for ten! I throw on my yoga pants, grab my double latte and run out the door. Today is a good day and I’m very grateful to be alive. Grateful mostly that my dream was just a dream AND thank goodness I don’t have poison ivy. That shit is terrible.

Posted on June 15, 2018 and filed under personal transformation.

The Key to Healing Chronic Acne That No One is Talking About

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Posted on January 19, 2018 and filed under adult acne.

What’s So Funny? How to Heal With Humor

What’s the fastest path to joy and peace? Laughter. From the very first time I had a giggle fit at the age of six and subsequently split my head open on the baseboard from laughing so hard, I was hooked. Laughter did something for my soul that nothing else could and it still guides me through all my challenges in life. This is why I firmly subscribe to this tenet: laughter is the best medicine.

And that ain’t no joke.

If laughter and humor is so great, then how can we use this transformational elixir to heal our wounds?

1.       Go back to your childhood. Don’t worry this is not about uncovering any hidden psychological hangups—we are looking for the funny. What made you laugh back then? If your uncle slipped down the stairs one winter and you found that hysterical—that’s one example. Did your brother pee on your babysitter? What made you laugh until it hurt? Bring up these memories and join in on the fun again. Think about those times and conjure them up when you’re feeling low. Your brain does not know the difference between now and then. If you are laughing at a memory, your body will experience it in the now. Your chemistry will change and bob’s your uncle—you’re on the funny train back to joy and peace.

2.       Raise your vibration. As mentioned above, laughing will change your brain chemistry. In the same way, your energy frequency will also change. The art of humor relies on surprise and shock in some cases. You are jolted out of your state of being into another one. Joy and laughter is a higher energy frequency than sadness, fear and anger. You can uplevel yourself with one outburst of laughter. How cool is that?! Use humor to shake yourself out of one state and into a more expanded one. When we are more relaxed, joyful and peaceful, the healing can take place in our body—we can release emotions and soothe the pain. We are not laughing our way OUT of an emotional experiences, we are laughing our way to resolution. Here is a chart that exemplifies the levels of vibrational frequency—not to be judge the levels as bad or good, but to see where you are on the scale of contraction or expansion. If you are more expansive, you can live life with more ease.

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3.       Pass it on. I know people who are naturally funny. You look at them and start to laugh hysterically. They don’t even have to blink, they are just FUNNY. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. If you are such a person, please pass this gift on to others. Spread the joy. This is healing and cathartic for you as well. Making people laugh is the greatest joy in life for some. Most stand-up comedians have had a really rough life. They use the comedy to transcend their pain. To joke about their tragedies is incredibly healing—for the performer and the audience. The next time you feel low, try making someone laugh. The results will be transformative.

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What do you find funny? Who makes you laugh more than anyone? Share below and spread the joy!

Posted on September 13, 2015 and filed under emotional growth.