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An open letter to Singles on Valentine's Day

How do you make it through the day when the whole world is in Love EXCEPT for you?

First of all, you and I both know that not everyone is in love—there are at least two of us sitting here right now and there may be dozens more out there. Regardless of the facts, it IS what Hallmark Cards, Lindt Chocolate and De Beers Diamonds wants you to feel like. Which is why we have to stick together like that saying goes: misery loves company.

Here are my two cents on what it's like to be single on Valentine's Day: it sucks. And any Single who says they don't care is a liar.

1. My promise to you in this letter

  • I will NOT tell you that all you need to do is love yourself.
  • I will NOT tell you to look for the hidden blocks to love that keep you from meeting “The One.”
  • And I certainly WILL NOT tell you how awesome it is to be single.

2. Pick up a Valentine's Day Survival pack

  • 1 box of tissues (let's not even try to deny that this won't be needed at some point).

  • Netflix account or access to your 1990s DVD collection of Romantic Movies. For example, Pretty Woman or Sleepless in Seattle (don't go halfway on this; you want to use up all of the tissues).

  • Your favorite blanket and slippers, preferably unwashed so that you can feel especially sorry for yourself.

  • Carbs (not the complex kind, the shitty kind).

  • Chocolate (make sure you purchase these before Valentine's Day—you don't want to endure the pity stares of the well-meaning clerk at 7-Eleven when you unload a basketful of chocolate hearts, while obviously wearing your PJs under your coat).

  • Your furry friend or alternatively, someone who won't try to talk you out of crying, wailing or otherwise making a fool out of yourself. Today you have every right to make a damn fool out of yourself.

  • A large bottle of alcohol or a large bottle of sugary liquid or both.
     

    3. Suggested Itinerary to make the intolerable, tolerable

  • Call in sick with the stomach flu (as in you won't be able to stomach the Valentine's Day cheer at the office)

  • If you must go to work, arrive in black with a veil over your face and tell everyone you had a death in the family (anyone with a brain in their head will give you a wide berth).

  • Bring your children to a relative or trusted friend's house so that you can let it all hang out at home.

  • Buy takeout for dinner—preferably Chinese food as this will be the only place where the staff is used to awkward and antisocial people arriving to pick up their food wearing their PJs under their coat.

  • Watch the first movie (see above).

  • Cry.

  • Get angry and yell at the wall.

  • Cry some more.

  • Laugh.

  • Cry again because now you feel like a crazy person.

  • Watch the second movie.

  • Pass out on the couch and wake up with pillow indents and a heavy sigh of relief. It's February 15th! You made it!

Remember that no matter what you decide to do today, just love yourself. Kidding! You should've seen your face! That was a good one.

But seriously, you will want to sign up for my FREE guided meditation Align with Your True Self because there is nothing better than being connected to yourself no matter what is going on in your life: 

What’s So Funny? How to Heal With Humor

What’s the fastest path to joy and peace? Laughter. From the very first time I had a giggle fit at the age of six and subsequently split my head open on the baseboard from laughing so hard, I was hooked. Laughter did something for my soul that nothing else could and it still guides me through all my challenges in life. This is why I firmly subscribe to this tenet: laughter is the best medicine.

And that ain’t no joke.

If laughter and humor is so great, then how can we use this transformational elixir to heal our wounds?

1.       Go back to your childhood. Don’t worry this is not about uncovering any hidden psychological hangups—we are looking for the funny. What made you laugh back then? If your uncle slipped down the stairs one winter and you found that hysterical—that’s one example. Did your brother pee on your babysitter? What made you laugh until it hurt? Bring up these memories and join in on the fun again. Think about those times and conjure them up when you’re feeling low. Your brain does not know the difference between now and then. If you are laughing at a memory, your body will experience it in the now. Your chemistry will change and bob’s your uncle—you’re on the funny train back to joy and peace.

2.       Raise your vibration. As mentioned above, laughing will change your brain chemistry. In the same way, your energy frequency will also change. The art of humor relies on surprise and shock in some cases. You are jolted out of your state of being into another one. Joy and laughter is a higher energy frequency than sadness, fear and anger. You can uplevel yourself with one outburst of laughter. How cool is that?! Use humor to shake yourself out of one state and into a more expanded one. When we are more relaxed, joyful and peaceful, the healing can take place in our body—we can release emotions and soothe the pain. We are not laughing our way OUT of an emotional experiences, we are laughing our way to resolution. Here is a chart that exemplifies the levels of vibrational frequency—not to be judge the levels as bad or good, but to see where you are on the scale of contraction or expansion. If you are more expansive, you can live life with more ease.

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3.       Pass it on. I know people who are naturally funny. You look at them and start to laugh hysterically. They don’t even have to blink, they are just FUNNY. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. If you are such a person, please pass this gift on to others. Spread the joy. This is healing and cathartic for you as well. Making people laugh is the greatest joy in life for some. Most stand-up comedians have had a really rough life. They use the comedy to transcend their pain. To joke about their tragedies is incredibly healing—for the performer and the audience. The next time you feel low, try making someone laugh. The results will be transformative.

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What do you find funny? Who makes you laugh more than anyone? Share below and spread the joy!

Posted on September 13, 2015 and filed under emotional growth.