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3 Ways to Accept Yourself and Live a Happier Life

Social media is a breeding ground for epically low self-esteem, comparisonitis and basically wishing you were anyone else. Being bombarded on a daily basis by the supermodel instagrammers, the jetsetters who globetrot with their entourage of cats and funny memes and even your colleague with the new blindingly white smile, it’s a wonder we can even get up in the morning.

How do we accept ourselves when everyone else seems to be skinnier, happier and richer or spending time with someone who is skinnier, happier and richer than they are?

Self-acceptance is a magical force—the more we lean into it, the more we flourish and flower and thrive.

Here are 3 ways to start accepting yourself (so you can stop feeling bad by what everyone else is doing) and feel happier in your own skin!

1.       Let go of resistance to what is. Resistance looks like wishing, hoping, denying, criticizing, cursing, raging against, forcing, ridiculing, belittling, shaming, ignoring, depriving and disconnecting. The things about you that you can’t change are: height, age, race, orientation and past experiences. Not a long list is it? Sit with those aspects of yourself and say: I accept that I am ….. and read out these aspects. Spend every day accepting and acknowledging these aspects of yourself. When you feel comfortable with that, you can move into: I love that I am … read out the same aspects.
 

2.       Ask yourself what you’re unhappy with. Is it your weight? Your income? Your relationship status? All these things you can change. BUT FIRST YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPT THEM THE WAY THEY ARE RIGHT NOW. Ok, so I’m 180 lbs right now. I’m making $40,000 per year. I’m single. Say these things out loud. This is where the saying “say it like it is” comes in. You have to look at your life with an honest lens. You have to accept what is.
 

3.       Release the emotional charge around the sticky points. If you’ve always had a problem with your weight or if you can’t find a healthy relationship then there are a lot of emotions tied up in that experience. In order to change anything, you have to clear the barriers in the way of making change: negative emotions and beliefs. Use tapping (tap on one point and tell the story of that experience until you have a release) to let go of the emotions surrounding your weight, relationship status and income situation. From there you can actually move forward and start making changes.

One last point about all the fabulous, beautiful and fancy free people on social media. They deserve to be happy too don’t they? If they become unhappy or suddenly aren’t as beautiful as they were or lose all their money, would all that goodness transfer to your life? No. So stay in your own lane, but wave and blow kisses to all those beside you. They all want what you want: to live a happy and fulfilling life. Let’s cheer each other on.

For more resources on how to be who you’re meant to be while surrounded by other high-vibing truth seekers, join my Facebook group: Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body

5 Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Healing Journey

Why is it that as humans we create endless ways to kibosh our own health and happiness? Are we just a bunch of weirdos on our way to the Masochist’s Ball?

One surefire way to find out: peruse this list and see how many yeses you tick off. If it’s 5 out of 5 then I’m not sure there is any help for you. Kidding! Awareness is the key to pulling yourself off the merri-go-round of misery and placing you onto the clear path of wholeness and freedom.

Here are five ways you may be stopping yourself from getting there:

1.       Blaming others. The easiest thing to do at times is to point your trusty finger at “all the things I didn’t have growing up”, “my family doesn’t support me” or any other reason you deem responsible for your current situation. The act of blaming others robs you of your own personal power and keeps you in a spin cycle of resentment, disappointment, and frustration. When we can accept that we have 100% choice in every single moment to do what we need to do for ourselves, we will make progress.
 

2.       Doing all the things. If you’re constantly leaping from one diet to another, working with umpteen different healers, cleansing every orifice and basically grasping at every straw there is, your body, mind and spirit will be in a constant state of upheaval. You need to tune in and listen to what you need and work with one healer you trust until you see some movement. A hundred methods and modalities are not better than one process that feels right. Stick with a plan and stay with it until you see changes.
 

3.       Expectations. Do you expect your symptoms to go away in a blink of an eye even though it took decades to create them? Are you hoping that if you find the right healer, method or modality, all problems will disappear after one or two sessions? Yes, miracles happen and we can heal “spontaneously”, however we need to lay the groundwork for this to occur. You need to prepare yourself physically, mentally and emotionally to be well. It sounds funny, but this is everything.  
 

4.       Letting negativity take over. We all have sour puss days where we want to grumble and whine and say things like: I’ll never get better! I’m doomed to a life of hell! I hate my life!

We need to honour that—let those emotions out and keep going. Never let these negative thoughts and emotions paint the backdrop of your experiences. It’s like mixing black paint into all the rainbow colours. Give yourself permission to spew out the ugliness in a healthy way (journaling, tapping and talking to a trusted mentor) and then focus on what you want to create.
 

5.       Being a hater. How often do you berate your body? Do you criticize and reprimand yourself for not being good enough? Are you constantly telling yourself that you screwed up again—you should’ve stuck with your plan? This is by far the most damaging pattern. Your body is your companion in this lifetime and is trying to make you happy. Your body responds to all the thoughts and beliefs and emotions that you feed it (the same way it responds to the food that it receives; garbage in, garbage out). So, if you don’t like what your body is doing, take an honest appraisal of what it has to work with.

This list is meant to help you see that the world is not against us and that there is no conspiracy to keep you stuck and miserable and sick. When we know better, we do better. So, if you are doing any of these five things to hinder your progress, now is the perfect time to stop doing them.

If you need help with your healing journey and are ready to focus on wholeness and freedom send me a message or comment below. May you find exactly what you need.  

Peace at Last? Body vs Mind

One summer afternoon, Mind and Body watch the sun dance on the water.

Although the scenery is peaceful and lovely, Mind is irritated with Body, as usual.

“You’re getting quite hefty,” Mind observes, sweeping her eyes over Body disapprovingly.

“What would you know? You’ve never been anything more than a bunch of thoughts. You don’t understand the physical. You’re all up in your head all the time.”

“A big FAT head, you’re right about that,” Mind shoots back.

Body folds her arms and turns away from Mind. Her stomach tightens. Ice cream would be good right now. Anything to override this tension.  

What does Mind know anyway? It’s not easy being flesh and blood.

Mind can’t handle a fifth of the nasty shit Body puts up with on the regular.
 

Body remarks coldly, “You’ve never felt anything in your life. You just THINK you have.” Body chuckles at her cleverness. 

Mind stews over this for an hour and a half. She unpacks each sentence and replays the words, making note of every nuance and tone Body used.

Her conclusion is that Body hates her and wants to destroy Mind.

Mind begins to plot her revenge.

“Next time you go out on the town be sure to wear your tight purple dress—the one that shows off all your bulges … I mean curves.” Mind sits back, proud of her Machiavellian style attack.

Mind feels triumphant: Body can’t take anyone criticizing her size!
 

But to Mind’s surprise, Body pulls herself up to full height.

And begins to dance. And twirl and twirl.

She flings her arms out, feeling the wind in her fingers and the song in her heart.

Each twirl fills Body with more and more joy.

Mind yells, “Stop this stupidity!”

Body twirls and twirls.

 

Mind wails, “The neighbours will laugh!”

Body sways and jumps, blood pulsating through her veins.

Mind stops yelling.

Mind stops everything. 

This is kinda cool she thinks grudgingly.

And she falls silent.

And Body dances and dances and dances.

 

Have you ever felt as if your mind and body were battling it out? Share your comments and stories below.

WHY AM I STILL FEELING AWFUL?

I used to think that I would literally never find relief from my longterm health issues: skin, digestive pain/imbalance and massive anxiety.

At one point I seriously thought I’d spend the rest of my life like a vegetable on medication, completely dysfunctional and of no use to anyone.
 

I had tried everything to make my symptoms go away.

I had put all my energy into “getting rid of the problem.”

Nothing was working: I was at my wit’s end.

I still felt awful and I accepted that I would probably always feel awful.


THERE WAS NO WAY OUT


We can paint ourselves into a corner sometimes.

We are not able to see the solution.

We really don’t even know what the problem is.

 

Here is a truth bomb that changed everything for me:

OUR SYMPTOMS ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, WE ARE THE PROBLEM
 

Your perspective of the problem is off.

Your solutions aren’t addressing the cause of the problem.

Your actions are not healing the ACTUAL CAUSES OF YOUR HEALTH PROBLEMS.

I know this all sounds harsh but you need a wake-up call so you don’t spend twenty years figuring things out (like I did).
 

HOW TO SHIFT

1.       Ask your health issue what it is trying to tell you. Journal about it. Meditate on it. Listen.

2.       Get in touch with your body everyday—ask what your body needs, how you’re feeling, spend time tuning in physically to your body.

3.       Look at your life patterns emotionally: what is your dominant experience to life? (ex. Disappointment, resentment, anger, fear of being criticized). Journal about it. Meditate on it. Listen.

THESE THREE TECHNIQUES WILL PROFOUNDLY SHIFT YOUR LIFE AND GET YOU IN TOUCH WITH WHO YOU REALLY ARE: YOUR TRUE SELF. YOUR TRUE SELF KNOWS ALL THE ANSWERS AND IS PATIENTLY WAITING FOR YOU TO EMBRACE YOUR TRANSFORMATION.

Comment below with your ahas!

Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body Guidelines

Welcome to the Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Body community!

Chronic skin, digestive and female health conditions will NEVER HEAL and in fact they will continue to get worse, unless you deal with your underlying emotional traumas and stuck emotions.

My community is about helping women with chronic skin, digestion and female health conditions who are ready to heal their emotional traumas so they can finally feel safe and at home in their body. If you're ready for peace of mind and freedom, you're in the right place!

NOBODY ELSE IS ADDRESSING THE UNDERLYING ISSUES THAT KEEP YOU FEELING STRESSED, ANXIOUS AND FRUSTRATED YEAR AFTER YEAR

Here are some of the amazing benefits you will receive in this sacred and uplifting group:

  • Feel relieved as you finally learn the root causes of your physical conditions.
  • Feel supported with deeply healing tools to unravel and clear toxic emotions so that you are no longer at war with your body.
  • Feel calm and centred the more you connect to your True Self and have the clarity you've been looking for.

FB LIVE WEEKLY SCHEDULE

Put this in your calendar so you don't miss it. Join me live in this group exclusively:

Freedom Friday 11 am PST--readings and energy work

I can’t wait to get to know you and to give you all my personal and professional healing resources to help you feel at home and safe in your body.

Love Eleanor
P.S. Favorite this group so you don’t miss any of the valuable content and resources!

Here is the link to share for the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

DAILY THEMES

Acceptance Monday: What are you willing to accept about yourself this week (no matter what)?

Truly Me Tuesday: Who are you at your core? I stand for RADICAL SELF-AWARENESS AND SELF-ACCEPTANCE. This is the key to true healing. Tell us one thing that lights you up about yourself!

We Love Food Wednesday: Time to celebrate food and talk about food! What do you love to eat? Also, what questions do you have around food--I will answer intuitively and from my experience of being a holistic nutritionist for 10 years.

Aha Thursday: Post your insights, realizations, aha moments, downloads or wisdom of the week. Did you have a new insight into your healing journey?

Fave Friday: Share your favourite quotes, photos, memories, things that make you laugh, places…it can be on any topic!

Soothing Sunday: Share your fave way to relax, recharge and unwind.

 

POSTS THAT ARE ENCOURAGED

  • Participating in the daily themes, telling us about yourself, sharing stories that are uplifting or inspirational

  • Helpful resources that you would like to share with the group—that helped you personally

  • Any questions or comments about your own journey

  • Requests for support and encouragement if you're having a difficult or challenging time

  • Questions about the HEAL YOUR EMOTIONS, HEAL YOUR BODY community: for clarification or when in need of more details
     

POSTS THAT ARE NOT TOLERATED

  • Offering UNSOLICITED (meaning the person did not ask for advice or guidance) counselling, therapy or coaching to other members-it is fine to offer love, support and encouragement

  • Insults, shaming or ridicule of others' posts and sharing

  • No spamming of business offers or marketing/commercial posts; this is not a group to promote your business


INVITE YOUR FRIENDS

To invite your friends to this community, send them a personal message with the link to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyouremotionshealyourbody/

Do not add people to the group without their permission.
Always ask first.

Happiness Comes From Love & Gratitude

Every day, people buy too much stuff, eat too much food, and waste away their hours chasing after happiness…to no avail. They may find excitement or satiation, but TRUE HAPPINESS still eludes them.

Fortunately, happiness is really inexpensive and pretty simple to find, but that doesn’t mean that it comes easily. However, if you’re bold, and truly willing to commit to a few simple steps, happiness will be yours in just a short while.

1.      Quit Complaining.

The first step to finding happiness is to stop trying to find what’s wrong with the world around you. There’s plenty to complain about, but if you focus all of your attention there, you’ll never see the good stuff.

2.      Choose To Live In Love.

Falling in love with the world (and people) around you is a sure step toward happiness…and it’s easy. Simply accept people for who they are, and choose to see the good in them. Don’t expect it…CHOOSE it…then express it.

3.      Appreciate Everything.

Start expressing your gratitude every day. If you’d like, keep a gratitude journal and write down at least 3 things you’re grateful for every morning. Before long, you’ll have more things to appreciate than you can count.

Becoming happy may mean “looking like a fool” or changing A LOT of your current habits, but I promise you…it sure beats the alternative.

What can YOU do to create more happiness in your life TODAY?

Posted on June 26, 2016 and filed under health and wellness.

Truly Me: Our Set of Values

A manifesto is a collection of values, intentions or philosophies of a group or individual. Here is the Truly Me Manifesto. All these principles and values form the backbone for all the content created for you.

Thank you for checking this out! Let me know in the comments which one(s) you resonate with the most.

Posted on March 22, 2016 and filed under health and wellness.

Irritable Bowel Syndrome: How to Improve Symptoms and Have More Freedom in Your Life

Circa 1996—I’m twenty-two years old.

Scene: My doctor’s office

[This mysterious diagnosis came after two years of non-stop invasive testing that brought me closer to my bowel movements than anyone ever should be. My chronic symptoms—extreme pain and diarrhea—seemed to point to some type of cancer or a need for surgery. The stress and worry had rendered me a complete wreck. I braced myself.]

Doctor: You have IBS.

Me: What?

Doctor: Irritable Bowel Syndrome. It’s mostly caused by stress, nothing to worry about. It’ll go away once you get settled in life.

He pats me on the shoulder.  My doctor delivered me into this world—and that is the only reason he didn’t get an East Vancouver knuckle sandwich that day.

Present time—I’m older than twenty-two.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve been on quite a ride and most of it has involved a toilet bowl of some sort.

I’m assuming that if you’re reading this you are either

a) living with IBS

b) close to someone who is living with IBS and you don’t really know how to take it.

Does IBS really cause that much pain? Is he/she really going to run to the bathroom? Again??!

For all the skeptics: Yes, it really is that painful: I’ve been a sobbing mess at times.

How do you reduce the severity and frequency of IBS symptoms?

 First of all, I want to acknowledge some of the major psychological consequences:

1.       Anxiety—I’ve felt very anxious at times, when I feel my stomach cramping and hurting and knowing that I need a washroom and not being able to find one. Or someone is in the bathroom and I can’t use it. Major freak out attack!

2.       Embarrassment—Rueben, the male character in the movie Along Came Polly starring Jennifer Aniston and Ben Stiller is a perfect example of what can happen to someone who has IBS. It certainly is a comical problem to have, but only if you’re watching someone else go through it. Real life IBS is not as funny or heartwarming in a romcom type of way.

Man of your dreams: Baby, I love you.

Me: Er … sorry … hold that thought. I’ll be right back!

3.       Feeling judged—it’s also not so funny if you feel like people are giving you the eye because you’re heading to the work washroom yet again. Please for the love of all things holy, don’t ask about or bring attention to a co-worker’s bathroom habits. Just leave them alone and practice your compassionate self. If you are the one heading to the bathroom again, just do what you need to do and don’t feel the need to explain yourself or apologize for anything.

How to reduce IBS symptoms

Over the past twenty years I’ve developed a prevention protocol for IBS symptoms that works very well for me. There is no “cure” at this point so it’s all about managing the situation and prevention. These are the steps that I’ve taken and the results are nothing short of miraculous. I am not symptom free, but I’m not a slave to IBS as I was in the past.
Please note that since we are all individuals this protocol may not work for you, due to other conditions you may have. You can use the principles of what I’ve done and tailor them to your own situation. I’m confident that you will notice an improvement in your life nonetheless!

1.       Take probiotics—if you don’t take a high dose of probiotics every single day (CFUs count of at least 25-100 billion depending on the severity of your symptoms), put down your phone right now and go to the health food store. You can read the rest of this later. The healthy bacteria for your digestion tract contained in the probiotics (no, you can’t just eat some yogurt) helps regulate the irregular Peristalsis patterns caused by IBS. This one strategy has reduced my symptoms by at least 80%.

2.       No wheat—I used to eat a lot of bread. When I switched to Kamut, Spelt or Brown Rice bread I had a revolutionary reduction in symptoms. Wheat may be hard to digest and is a common allergen for people. I replaced all my wheat products—pasta, bread, etc.—with brown rice pasta, kamut bread, brown rice and quinoa products. This has been the single biggest change for me. However, there are so many yummy alternatives out there now, I know you’ll find wonderful replacements for your favorite foods.

3.       No dairy—this is following the same principle as with the replacement of wheat. Dairy can trigger people and cause “episodes.” Cutting dairy out of my diet made another massive improvement in the reduction of my symptoms.

4.       Seabuckthorn capsules—this amazing remedy has also made a beautiful change in my life. Seabuckthorn is high in Omega 7 which helps repair the mucous membranes of the body. Studies have shown positive results for people with IBS, including moi. I take 500mg per day.

5.       Managing stress—this is THE BIGGEST component. If you don’t figure out how to manage your stress, you’ll be living permanently in the bathroom. Not fun. I became a Reiki Master and I use Reiki on myself all the time. I like yoga—particularly Ashtanga, Hot or Hatha. I take walks. I breathe a lot when I’m stressed—slow deliberate breaths. I also use Rescue Remedy in times of intense stress. Develop your own lifeline when stressful times arrive.

What helps you the most?

I would love to hear about your experiences. Please share in the comments what has helped for you, so that all of us can benefit from the shared knowledge. Many blessings and I hope this has article has been useful!

Download my FREE pdf here: IBS cheatsheet to reduce symptoms